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Tuesday, July 05, 2005

No Kool-Aid for Me, Mr. Cruise. But Thanks for Offering

People are wonderful. They walk down the street knowing everything, confident, smug in the knowledge that they are right in all things, and ready to guide you onto the One True Path. Accept no substitutions.

Just as it is inevitable that something undesirable will splat on my shoulder once in a while, know that I'm prone to coaching. I'll hear that the beet salad is really better than the Caesar or that I shouldn't use Splenda because it is bad for me, that yelling at the guy who runs the red light won't help matters, that my dog would be happier if I got him little boots to wear, that I should stop wearing glasses, that I am doing myself and my child a disservice by not practicing yoga.

I swim through it, generally saying that I deserve to have some vices and the dog once ate a pair of my shoes, so he doesn't deserve some of his own until he pays me back.

But now movie stars and the like are getting into the act and doing things like deciding that vitamins and exercise provide the One True Path out of post-partum depression. Now, I haven't really followed the Tom Cruise / Brooke Shields smackdown too closely, though I did hear about his rather incoherent observations and her New York Times Op Ed piece. One wonders why this man who has never been pregnant or experienced what it is like to witness a partner suffer from post-partum depression feels so obliged to speak out against conventional treatment. Why did he choose PPD as his jumping off point to rage against therapy and psychopharmaceuticals anyway? A little army of celebrities has gone public with tales of suffering and recovery through therapy and medication and Cruise could have attacked any of them, but he picked la Shields. I'm disgusted, but interested.

All the language is fascinating. Not only did Cruise talk in rather unpleasant terms about the harm Shields is doing to her person with Paxil, he also spoke the language of superstition- saying that Shields's career is faltering and doomed because of her choices.

The maternal world is shrouded with the cobwebs of superstition, and we are so susceptible to threats of doom. We are advised to embrace or avoid certain foods and drink, to sleep in certain ways, to adhere to specific patterns of behavior because to refuse to comply means disaster. For many, from the moment they start hoping to conceive, daggers hang over their heads. Mr. Cruise is not unique in playing upon irrational fears and the threat of disaster. I suspect he picked a woman with a circumstance he can't hope to understand because pregnant women everywhere are susceptible to this kind of threat and he wanted to select the audience with the most vulnerable ears.

The air is full of ad hoc advice and predictions of doom- does it really matter if one of these squeaky voices belongs to a movie star? I mean, if you wouldn't buy mascara based on his opinion of it, why would you let this guy's notions influence your decisions about your health? I've had more than a taste of post-partum depression, and I believe it can be so crushing that even vitamins and Pilates can't overcome its strength. Plenty of folks are up in arms about what Cruise said, but I think it is more important to contemplate why he said it, and whom he was trying to influence.

posted by Elise at 6:23 PM

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