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Even in my bleary state, where it takes me much much more time than it should to figure out what to pack for Felix's lunch (and as an aside-- is is at all odd that I would find this a somewhat melancholy milestone in a "how is it that my toddler is already ready for bag lunches" fashion?) believe me, I'd be shedding a bittersweet tear if I weren't puzzling over how to get a banana to school without it squashing--- oh God, what happened to that sentence?
Anyway EVEN in my obviously compromised state, I have gotten wind of the Pregnancy Pact Girls in Gloucester Mass. What were they thinking? The articles I have seen mention that these teenagers wanted to raise their babies "together." In a commune? Is that what was up? The media appears to be pointing the finger at Hollywood. But the celebrity mothers tend to be of -- ahem -- advanced maternal age. There's Jamie-Lynn Spears of course. She crops up in all of these articles as a Bad Influence, but is she really such a bright spot in the world of entertainment that people would follow her choices in shampoo, let alone pregnancy?
Oh what do I know? I am mostly curious about the bandwagon jumping that these girls apparently did because even Spears didn't find a homeless guy to knock her up the way some of these teenagers apparently did. It's creepy and distasteful all right to do that, but it also speaks of a really weird need to fit in. I don't think I've ever seen an almost literal instance of the phrase: "if your friend jumped off a bridge would you do it too?" but there it is.
One was never in danger of doing this sort of thing oneself. One never had that kind of community to live up to, but it seems a terribly extreme thing to do to keep one's friends, especially since, my experience in the wake of having children is a huge wave of Friend Attrition that I'm only now learning not to whine about.
In the meantime, does anyone have good ideas for lunchbags? They don't even have to be good ideas, actually. I have no idea what the kid eats, if he eats anything. I ask of course. Of course I ask, but the answers aren't anything the reality based community would want to take to the bank.
posted by Elise at 4:27 AM
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As a preschool teacher, I can tell you what toddlers/two eat at school and what they don't. They eat string cheese. Lots of string cheese. (Advantage: very easy for the 'rents). They eat yogurt but only if it's full of sugar and neon-colored. They eat granola bars but also only the really sweet kind. They won't eat vegetables except, occasionally, baby carrots or grape tomatoes. They will eat grapes,bananas and apples if there are no brown spots.
Re: the pregnancy pact. Those girls are ignored by their parents and desperate for any kind of love.
6/22/2008 4:22 PM
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Are we sure that this pregnancy pact is not an urban legend? Anyway, you wrote this at 4 in the morning, and, as the parent of two boys (age 26 and 23), I want to tell you: relax, go back to bed and don't worry about what you put in those endearing brown bags (what we absent-minded mothers used in the '80's), besides something that lets them know, when they open them up and look at their mom's offerings, that you love them because, in my experience, even the love stuff will be tossed in the throw-away basket once the connection is confirmed. And a belated welcome to the Two Boys Club!
6/22/2008 9:49 PM
Elise said...
In my defense, the time stamp here is set to Pacific time and I am on the East Coast. I surely (surely) posted this at a civilized 7:27 AM, though how long I had been awake is another story.
6/23/2008 6:36 AM
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I am glad to learn about Pacific v. East Coast time. You are living in the middle of a cyclone (though it hardly matters that it's of your own making). The more time you can sleep and have time to yourself with your husband and friends, whilst satisfying your maternal bond, the less you may need to second-guess your mothering skills in spite of a common, societally encouraged inclination to do so.
6/25/2008 8:50 PM
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Just in case you haven't heard, the "pregnancy pact" was an urban myth.
http://majikthise.typepad.com/majikthise_/2008/06/high-school-pre.html
BitchPhD's take on the story:
http://bitchphd.blogspot.com/2008/07/heroines-of-last-week.html
7/18/2008 12:17 PM
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